“Did you hear that…?”
“Isn’t so-and-so so stupid for…?”
Too often hearing gossip affects my perspective on the not-so-liked people. It’s terrible that before even meeting this one girl, I had a bad opinion of her. It’s easy to judge people, because it makes us feel better and more valuable. But your pride costs the dignity of others. And it often doesn’t give people a chance to change.
Whether we like it or not, gossiping is hurtful. The victim of gossip is likely not altogether a horrible person. Maybe they just messed up once. Or maybe they could transform if they noticed you had high expectations of them instead of low expectations. Think about it: would you more likely stop your habit of boasting about yourself if people whispered cruel words about you or if they gently congratulated you for being good at playing the piano?
Often people do stupid things because they feel insecure about themselves. So instead of rolling your eyes at them, try to just love on them, to let them know you care and they don’t need to do anything out of the ordinary for you to care about them. Expect the best from them. Assume they are going to be a nice, humble person by treating them how you would want to be treated. Get on their level and treat them with respect.
The gossip I had heard about the girl drastically affected my view of her for awhile in a negative way, so I was cautious about being friendly with her. Interestingly, it turned out that later I realized she was one of the kindest, sweetest people I have ever met. The rumors may have been true, but everyone messes up sometimes, and messing up doesn’t define people.
God loves each person deeply and gave up His Son for us to live freely for all time. The value He places on us is the only thing that should define us… Wow! Isn’t He so good to us?
The fact is, gossiping is for prideful people. We have all done stupid things at one time or another. We all need Jesus desperately, and, with His strength, we can forsake pride and reach higher. We are all under the same God, and He cares for us no matter how stupid we act.
“The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.” — James 3:6 (NIV)